Know Your MoneyGram
In this fluctuating economy, it can be tempting to hide purchases or income from your significant other. Below is Dr. Bonnie’s perscription for a couple she counseled on Good Morning America, who was doing just
that - and we think it can help you, too. The MoneyGram chart is taken from Financial Infidelity. For more information, reference the book, or call Dr. Bonnie’s phone therapy line at (212) 606-3787.
EXERCISES FOR YOU AND YOUR PARTNER
Exercise #1
Depict your family’s money beliefs and dialog.
— Most disagreements triggered by money
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Exercise #2 |
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Create a Money Tree
Visualization is realization so the root “Money Values” gets met Use when tempted by “bad money behavior” |
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Exercise #3
view the ten things you spend the most money on and your partner’s reaction.
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CONTRACT TIPS: |
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Go Counter Intuitive (switch money roles) - Opposites attract and are really alike Turn Crisis into Opportunity Compartmentalize Money Issues from the rest of the relationship so it does not comtaminate passion. Say Goodbye to old relationships with money Make a concious decision to fall in love all over again Touch is magic. Use it daily. Treat each other like you did in the beginning of your relationship (go back to basics that do not involve money) Put your relationship first, and money second Use Dr. Weil’s money love language weekly to provide safety for money conflicts, by appointment (15 mins. a week) using a figurative “bullet-proof” vest to minimize reactivity. Accept and acknowledge your partners differences (remember you always unconsciously pick a partner who is going to give you the most trouble. Embrace the positives together (Use the fair fighting money language talks for the negatives) Money disagreements can trigger sensitivity from you or your partner’s family money history, beliefs and dialogs. Draw a moneygram, a money tree and a mirror on the wall to minimize anger and tensions in this economy so you can create better bonding and also a moneygram |
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