Honesty is Still the Best (Financial) Policy

By Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil

Throughout my practice, I’ve dealt with people who – for various reasons – keep issues of money and finances secret from their partner. This can manifest itself in different ways -from spending behind the other person’s back to no disclosing the fact that you’re keeping money for yourself, to having “secret” bank accounts or credit cards. Now that times are more economically difficult for many, it’s more likely that these types of behaviors could crop up – and more important than ever to stop them from doing so!

1.Honesty = Intimacy. If you’re feeling tempted to go behind your partner’s back, keep this correlation in mind. Full disclosure about money (or on many subjects!) brings safety, safety brings trust which brings connection and connection brings intimacy, which brings passion. Fostering a spirit of full disclosure in your relationship can go a long way toward the overall health of that relationship.

2.Talk it out. Of course, if you’re having urges to splurge on something without telling your partner or are tempted to not talk money matters during this difficult time you don’t want to push those feelings under the rug. This can often speak to an underlying fear in a relationship: fear of trust, fear of intimacy, etc. If this fear is present you and your partner need to work on cultivating a safe relationship. Don’t over-react if your partner did something unwise. Often the reason they hesitate to disclosure this information is because they fear the reaction.

3.Use the Money Love Language. I discuss this language in my book, and I’ve discussed it before on this site.  Communicating in a way that is empathetic, that provides clarity and validation in spite of short comings will encourage this crucial environment of full disclosure and trust.

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Best-selling author and therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil addresses topics related to love, sex, and money, as found in her book, Financial Infidelity